How Self Reliance builds Self Confidence

My achievements make me proud of myself

I have found that being self-reliant increases my confidence enormously. 

Life is a fascinating mix of exhilaration, joy, and fear of the unknown. I am sometimes unsure of what is around the next corner. So, I realize I must strive each day to depend more on myself.

Life requires me to be self-reliant. To me, being self-reliant means that I can stand alone and do what I need to do without hesitation. I realize that I am the master of my destiny and so be it. Every day I remind myself this simple truth, No One and No Thing Is Responsible For My Happiness! 

It brings me comfort to know that I am okay regardless of what happens. My self-sufficiency empowers me to do whatever I believe is right or best for each situation. I take responsibility for my actions and don’t blame anyone for missteps I take. 

I trust myself and listen to my inner voice which is much more intelligent that any human being.

When I encounter a rough patch, I give myself time to consider my options. I set the “appointment” with my fear or doubt. I simply ask myself: How do I want to handle this situation? Which option makes me feel good? and wait at least 24 hrs before I decide which path to take.

Ultimately, I know I can find the right answer when I rely on my inner guidance. Everything begins in the gut.

Sometimes, being self-reliant also means knowing who to ask for help.

I learn from the experience of others who are more knowledgeable in whatever I am pursuing. Then, my own knowledge and wisdom increases, building my self-reliance and confidence even more.

Today, my capacity to handle things on my own is at its highest because of my self-reliance. My goal is to show the world that I can rely on myself to accomplish my dreams.

Can You answer those self reflecting questions:

  1. Who comes to mind when I think of self-reliance? Can I pattern my behavior after them?
  2. Do I determine my own direction in life and go after what I want?
  3. When the going gets tough, how can I demonstrate self-reliance?

Yolanda Russo

A 5 Minute Guide on How to Talk with Yourself

Choose Happy

A 5-Minute Guide on How to Talk with Yourself

The way you talk with yourself can make a big difference in your happiness and health. You can put obstacles in your way, or you can empower yourself to achieve more.

Self-talk is what psychologists call the inner dialogue you carry on with yourself. It’s usually filled with conscious and subconscious beliefs that started in your childhood.

It’s also a habit that you can reprogram if you want different results. You can convince yourself that you’re inadequate or you can remind yourself that you have the potential to learn and grow. Positive self-talk builds your confidence and makes it easier to persevere.

Learn how to take control of your self-talk. Try these strategies for becoming a better friend to yourself.

General Principles for Adjusting Your Self-Talk:

  1. Increase your awareness. The first step in changing your self-talk is becoming more familiar with it. Many of the messages that you send to yourself are so automatic that they can escape your notice. Keeping a journal may help you to pay more attention.
  2. Plan ahead. Have alternatives ready for the patterns you want to change. Make a list of positive affirmations to replace your old put-downs. You can browse online for ideas or use your own words.
  3. Identify your options. Negative self-talk can narrow your vision. Read self-help books or observe others to see different ways to respond to conflicts and setbacks.
  4. Depersonalize situations. Do you blame yourself for things that are beyond your control? Most events have multiple causes. Distinguish between taking responsibility for your actions and beating yourself up.
  5. Develop compassion. Be kind to yourself! Imagine you’re speaking to a close friend. Avoid harsh words or insults.
  6. Seek moderation. Distorted self-talk tends to become more exaggerated over the years. Check the accuracy of your statements and stick to the facts.
  7. Be patient. It often takes considerable repetition to replace your old messages with more constructive wording. Hang in there. Eventually your new affirmations will seem natural and authentic.

Specific Strategies for Adjusting Your Self-Talk:

  1. Use present tense. The only time when you can take action is now. Keep your self-talk focused on the present moment instead of reliving the past or trying to anticipate the future.
  2. Say your name. Research shows that addressing yourself by name is often more effective than using pronouns. Maybe it encourages you to be objective or makes you feel like you have company.
  3. Look in the mirror. Reinforce your messages by looking yourself in the eye. Repeat affirmations while gazing into a mirror in your bathroom or in your car.
  4. Create reminders. Stay on track by surrounding yourself with cues to speak to yourself with kindness and respect. Spend time with family and friends who boost your spirits. Write inspiring quotes on sticky notes and put them on your office phone or closet door.
  5. Speak out loud. Repeat your affirmations out loud when you have privacy. It may be awkward to tell yourself that you’re amazing in the middle of a coffee shop, but you could record a message on your phone that you can listen to anywhere.
  6. Consider therapy. It can be challenging to change self-talk that you’ve been reinforcing for years. Talking with a professional could help you to gain more insights and ideas. 

Enjoy a happier and more meaningful life by transforming your self-talk. That little voice inside you can be a powerful tool for reducing stress and helping you to reach your goals. Ensure that it’s lifting you up and guiding you toward success.

Yolanda Russo, life coach at Speranzi Facial Spa.

My body deserves to be treated with love

Daily Affirmations

My body deserves to be cared for.

I treat my body like a king treats his castle. It is my prized possession. My body deserves to be taken care of. Since my body drives every activity I do, I give it my full attention.

My body gets me out of bed each morning. It is important that it functions well so I can meet my physical obligations.

I take time to exercise my body, which keeps it from breaking down.

What I put into my mouth determines how well my inner body functions. I avoid giving into cravings for unhealthy foods because they dull my mind and put pressure on my organs.

I follow a balanced eating regimen to ensure I get the necessary nutrients. A healthy diet ensures my mind is sharp and able to take on the day’s challenges.

I take good care of my mind by monitoring my thoughts. I watch appropriate programming on television to encourage positive living. I also engage in healthy conversations with friends and co-workers.

I also exercise my mind every chance I get. When I play games or do puzzles, I get a good mental workout.

Today, I am committed to living a good life. I know that it starts by having a healthy body inside and out. My life’s mission is to keep my body as happy and healthy as possible.

Self-Reflection Questions:

  1. How do I get back on track when I fall off the healthy wagon?
  2. When have outside commitments interfered with my goal of a healthy lifestyle?
  3. In what ways do I cope with changing responsibilities?

Yolanda Russo

How To Find Joy In Each Day.

I am grateful

Life provides so many opportunities to feel cheerful. Being in high spirits throughout the day brings me feelings of contentment and calm. And when I feel joyful, I feel stronger. Sometimes, a simple moment of solitude brings peace to my heart.

Experiencing joy each day has a wonderful effect on my psyche and my physical well-being. This is part of the reason I seek to cultivate happiness in my life.

From the time I wake up in the morning until I rest for the night, I rehearse the countless sources of joy. And then when I awake in the morning I feel the sun shining on my face and I smile. I am grateful for being smothered by gifts of this world.  At the end of the day I treasure the time I spend with my loved ones, it simply lights up my heart. 

I find it easy to discover joy in practically everything. Even the smallest things fill my soul with happiness and a sense of well-being. I love to listen to stories on the radio of good samaritan saving live of a stranger. I choose to tune in the radio to the station I like to listen, I turn of the news that creates stress. 

Regardless of whether I am at work or at home, alone or with people, I pay attention to all the joys that life provides. 

Today, I feel blessed to notice the little things in life that make me happy.  I intend to keep my eyes, mind, and heart open to all the beauty that surrounds me each day. I choose to be present and never miss another beautiful moment in my life. 

Let me ask you self reflecting questions now and you can easily answer it by commenting below the post:

1. Do you take a moment to notice the things or people that bring a smile to your face? 
2. What brought you joy today?
3. How do you treasure the moments of gratitude that you find each day of your life?

Yolanda Russo

Demonstrating self-reliance increases my confidence.

Life is a fascinating mix of exhilaration, joy, and fear of the unknown. I am sometimes unsure of what is around the next corner. So, I realize I must strive each day to depend more on myself.

Life requires me to be self-reliant. To me, being self-reliant means that I can stand alone and do what I need to do. I plot my own direction.

I know I can do anything on my own.

It brings me comfort to know that I am okay regardless of what happens. My self-sufficiency empowers me to do whatever I believe is right or best for each situation.

I determine my own destiny.

I am confident in myself because of my self-reliance. When I encounter a rough patch, I give myself time to consider my options. I ask myself things like, “How do I want to handle this situation?” and “Which option can bring me the most positive result?”

Ultimately, I know I can prevail because of my self-reliance. I feel self-assured and I am thankful for it.

Sometimes, being self-reliant means knowing who to go to for help. I learn from the experience of others who are more knowledgeable in whatever I am pursuing. Then, my own knowledge and wisdom increases, building my self-reliance and confidence even more.

Today, my capacity to handle things on my own is at its highest because of my self-reliance. My goal is to show the world that I can rely on myself to accomplish my dreams.

Self-Reflection Questions:

1. Who comes to mind when I think of self-reliance? Can I pattern my behavior after them?
2. Do I determine my own direction in life and go after what I want?
3. When the going gets tough, how can I demonstrate self-reliance?

I am my own best cheerleader.

Daily affirmations

What if instead of waiting for someone else to praise you…you did that all by yourself? It is possible and extremely rewarding to honor yourself. Begin each day with you in mind. Here are some examples of ways I have succeeded in forgiving myself for mistakes I’ve made in the past and staying positive no matter what is happening in my life.

I root for myself in all situations. I offer myself praise, and appreciate the compliments I give myself. I choose words that motivate me and help me move forward.

I trust my own guidance and make my goal to follow my gut feeling about the things I am debating on. At a networking event, I remind myself that I am friendly and knowledgeable. I focus on smiling and staying updated on the latest in my industry. I find that is always easier to start conversations with people in business or personal when I am aware of nuances of a subject I want to discuss.

I offer myself affirmation when I am losing weight or when I am getting out and exercising. I always celebrate the positive changes I make.

When in doubt or during a challenging time at work or home I choose to come home and not dwell on it but watch a funny movie. Laughter dissolves stress and cheers me up. Or I opt to serve myself one of my favorite desserts to keep me smiling in spite of adversities. 

I often play with my dog and in a split second I feel the love that I give and receive.

I love doing things to lift my spirits. Each morning I head outdoors to surround myself with nature. I find the sound of water and green fields invigorate me.  When I am lost in my thoughts I listen to soothing music. 

Today, I give myself a pat on the back. When I cheer for myself, I am reminded that someone is in my corner. I remember my purpose in life and make positive decisions that support me.

Why don’t you try answering those self-reflecting questions:

1. How do I know when I need a pep talk?
2. What is one inspiring thing I could say to myself each morning?
3. Why is it important for me to be kind to myself?

Yolanda Russo

A 5-Minute Guide on How to Talk with Yourself

The way you talk with yourself can make a big difference in your happiness and health. You can put obstacles in your way, or you can empower yourself to achieve more.

Self-talk is what psychologists call the inner dialogue you carry on with yourself. It’s usually filled with conscious and subconscious beliefs that started in your childhood.

It’s also a habit that you can reprogram if you want different results. You can convince yourself that you’re inadequate or you can remind yourself that you have the potential to learn and grow. Positive self-talk builds your confidence and makes it easier to persevere.

Learn how to take control of your self-talk. Try these strategies for becoming a better friend to yourself.

General Principles for Adjusting Your Self-Talk:

1. Increase your awareness. The first step in changing your self-talk is becoming more familiar with it. Many of the messages that you send to yourself are so automatic that they can escape your notice. Keeping a journal may help you to pay more attention.

2. Plan ahead. Have alternatives ready for the patterns you want to change. Make a list of positive affirmations to replace your old put-downs. You can browse online for ideas or use your own words.

3. Identify your options. Negative self-talk can narrow your vision. Read self-help books or observe others to see different ways to respond to conflicts and setbacks.

4. Depersonalize situations. Do you blame yourself for things that are beyond your control? Most events have multiple causes. Distinguish between taking responsibility for your actions and beating yourself up.

5. Develop compassion. Be kind to yourself! Imagine you’re speaking to a close friend. Avoid harsh words or insults.

6. Seek moderation. Distorted self-talk tends to become more exaggerated over the years. Check the accuracy of your statements and stick to the facts.

7. Be patient. It often takes considerable repetition to replace your old messages with more constructive wording. Hang in there. Eventually your new affirmations will seem natural and authentic.

Specific Strategies for Adjusting Your Self-Talk:

1. Use present tense. The only time when you can take action is now. Keep your self-talk focused on the present moment instead of reliving the past or trying to anticipate the future.

2. Say your name. Research shows that addressing yourself by name is often more effective than using pronouns. Maybe it encourages you to be objective or makes you feel like you have company.

3. Look in the mirror. Reinforce your messages by looking yourself in the eye. Repeat affirmations while gazing into a mirror in your bathroom or in your car.

4. Create reminders. Stay on track by surrounding yourself with cues to speak to yourself with kindness and respect. Spend time with family and friends who boost your spirits. Write inspiring quotes on sticky notes and put them on your office phone or closet door.

5. Speak out loud. Repeat your affirmations out loud when you have privacy. It may be awkward to tell yourself that you’re amazing in the middle of a coffee shop, but you could record a message on your phone that you can listen to anywhere.

6. Consider therapy. It can be challenging to change self-talk that you’ve been reinforcing for years. Talking with a professional could help you to gain more insights and ideas. Ask your doctor for a referral or consult the online Psychologist Locator at The American Psychological Association.

Enjoy a happier and more meaningful life by transforming your self-talk. That little voice inside you can be a powerful tool for reducing stress and helping you to reach your goals. Ensure that it’s lifting you up and guiding you toward success.

I find joy in each day

I find joy in each day.

Life provides so many opportunities to feel cheerful. Being in high spirits throughout the day brings me feelings of contentment and calm. And when I feel joyful, I am usually in better health as well.

Experiencing joy each day has a wonderful effect on my psyche and my physical well-being. This is part of the reason I seek to cultivate happiness in my life.

From the time I rise in the morning until I retire for the night, I discover countless sources of joy. When I awake, sometimes just the shining sun makes me smile. In the evening, time spent with friends and loved ones fill my heart with delight.

I find it easy to discover joy in practically everything. Even the smallest occurrences provide me with happiness and a sense of well-being. When I hear music on the radio, I am joyful. Maybe I sing aloud when I am driving and that makes me happy, too.

Regardless of whether I am at work or at home, alone or with people, I pay attention to all the joys that life provides. Sometimes, a simple moment of solitude brings peace to my heart.

Today, I feel blessed to have so much happiness in my life. I intend to keep my eyes, mind, and heart open to all the joy that surrounds me each day.

Self-Reflection Questions:

  1. Do I take advantage of opportunities to find happiness throughout my day?
  2. What brought me joy today?
  3. How can I ensure that I discover more sources of joy each day of my life?

My body deserves to be cared for.

I treat my body like a king treats his castle. It is my prized possession. My body deserves to be taken care of. Since my body drives every activity I do, I give it my full attention.

My body gets me out of bed each morning. It is important that it functions well so I can meet my physical obligations.

I take time to exercise my body, which keeps it from breaking down.

What I put into my mouth determines how well my inner body functions. I avoid giving into cravings for unhealthy foods because they dull my mind and put pressure on my organs.

I follow a balanced eating regimen to ensure I get the necessary nutrients. A healthy diet ensures my mind is sharp and able to take on the day’s challenges.

I take good care of my mind by monitoring my thoughts. I watch appropriate programming on television to encourage positive living. I also engage in healthy conversations with friends and co-workers.

I also exercise my mind every chance I get. When I play games or do puzzles, I get a good mental workout.

Today, I am committed to living a good life. I know that it starts by having a healthy body inside and out. My life’s mission is to keep my body as happy and healthy as possible.

Self-Reflection Questions:

1. How do I get back on track when I fall off the healthy wagon?
2. When have outside commitments interfered with my goal of a healthy lifestyle?
3. In what ways do I cope with changing responsibilities?

How To Become Your Own Cheerleader

Noone is going to stand up for you if you don’t for yourself!

I root for myself in all situations. I offer myself praise, and appreciate the compliments I give myself. I choose words that motivate me.

I offer myself guidance. My advice is specific and practical. At a networking event, I remind myself that I am friendly and knowledgeable. I focus on smiling and staying updated on the latest industry news. It becomes easier to start conversations with strangers and join in their discussions.

I offer myself affirmation. I notice when I am losing weight or getting along better with my mother-in-law. I celebrate the positive changes I make.

The little things in life are rewarding. I watch a funny movie. Laughter dissolves stress and cheers me up. I prepare my favorite foods. Indulging in a cup of hot chocolate or a kale salad with cranberries restores my energy.

I play with my pets. They remind me that I am loveable.

I spend time with family and friends. They share my victories and setbacks. They support me in everything I do.

I love doing things to lift my spirits. I listen to stimulating music. Housework becomes less tedious when my favorite songs are playing. I exercise regularly. Physical activity fights depression. I head outdoors to surround myself with nature. Flowing water and green fields invigorate me.

Today, I give myself a pat on the back. When I cheer for myself, I am reminded that someone is in my corner. I remember my purpose in life and make positive decisions that support me.

Self-Reflection Questions:

  1. How do I know when I need a pep talk?
  2. What is one inspiring thing I could say to myself each morning?
  3. Why is it important for me to be kind to myself?

Yolanda Russo